Where did 2020 go? It seems like only yesterday that we were thinking about the year that would be 2020. Little did we know what was around the corner. One thing for certain is, that 2020 has taught us to recognise how momentous life truly is, no matter how chaotic.
So, as 2021 rises on the horizon, it made me think, how should we positively approach the year? Long term planning and setting goals seems out of the question and I don’t make New Year’s resolutions because they tend to last five minutes (usually because they are ridiculous). So why not focus on the small things and ask yourself, what do I intend to do in 2021?
Let’s start by reflecting back before planning the year ahead. It’s a good place to start, and it’s a beautiful thing to do with other people, friends and family. Think about what would you like to cultivate in your life? What would you like to let go of that doesn’t serve you anymore? What do you find a constant struggle to deal with in your daily life that needs focus and what do you need help or guidance with?
Some tips to help with the process:
- Start by writing down your best moments of 2020. The moments that against all odds you really felt joy and pleasure from and are going to be really simple and easy to keep going in 2021.
- Ask yourself what needs to change or is no longer aligned with your values. Is it your job or your relationships for example? And what is it about these that is no longer satisfying you?
- What do you want to let go of and stop putting off addressing?
- What do you want to bring more of into your day? More love, more laughter, more time?
It’s so important to focus on the simplicity as opposed to trying to accomplish crazy goals. We all need less friction and procrastination, because the more resistance there is to doing something the less likely we are to do it.
What are my intentions for 2021?
Without a doubt when I reflect on 2020 it immediately evokes all kinds of emotions, a feeling of how grateful I am but also how frustrated, fatigued and sad I feel about what’s been happening. We all grit our teeth and keep going though don’t we, and that’s ok but we also need to embrace these feelings and emotions, let them wash over us, bringing them positively into our lives and engage our support systems to share them. We don’t do enough of and we need it! So let’s do it.
Over the years I have accumulated ‘things’, some useful and some just spur of the moment purchases that just gather dust and get in the way. So, I intend to declutter. Now that certainly doesn’t mean throwing things out. Instead I will be finding new uses for things, donating my ‘clutter’ to those who need it. I’m genuinely excited about it. I know it will make my personal space feel lighter and no doubt I will feel lighter.
Night time ritual
I have an 18 month old and I know how a good sleep is not always achievable … despite longing for one! But I know I can do more to make my evenings more relaxing and help me switch off. So, I am going to start adding more routine to create a bit of night time ritual.
- Light exercise (to calm my busy mind)
- Herbal tea (because always makes me feel more relaxed)
- Reading (I’ll probably get two pages into my book and feel sleepy, but it’s a start)
- Creating a relaxing space (through decluttering)
When I look at these points I think … totally achievable.
Look to the horizon
We are all busy people, there is always something to do and never enough time to do it. Or at least that’s how I feel. But I know that sometimes I am not that busy and I create a lot of the stress in my own life through unnecessarily committing to things I don’t need to. I intend to minimise that. In place of it I’m going to spend that time appreciating the simple things around me. Reminding myself to look up, look out, and look at things more closely because you never know what you will discover.
Let’s all keep our eyes to the horizon in 2021.